Words may divide but the Tango embrace unites. So on the dance floor, in the absence of words, I completely offer my heart and spirit to my cherished dance partners. Although my offering is only on the level of energy and presence with the dance, for me it is so complete and exposed, that I might as well be making love. It is my conscious choice to open my energy field to this degree and I do so with partners I generally trust. But it’s a vulnerable place to be with people you don’t know that well. And trust of this kind can be a fragile thing, easily betrayed by the aggression of words. A casual, insensitive criticism that would normally not faze me has the impact to shatter me if delivered while I am in this vulnerable tango state. Months and months of built-up dance trust is so easily compromised by thoughtless comments.
Perhaps I’m just the overly sensitive type? Or perhaps Tango has come into my life to teach me deeper lessons about detachment and the true source of inner fulfillment? Yes, tango is constantly teaching me to strengthen my resolve, to be more humble, to let go of ego on deeper levels. This dance is challenging me physically, mentally and emotionally to stretch myself and my perceived boundaries. It is training me to remain in my power center and to be true to myself, without compromise or manipulative influence from others. The moment we let other people’s insensitivity and discomfort shut down our joyful expression is the moment we lose ourselves. And if we have lost our joy, our peace of mind, we have lost everything worth having. We are not here to be controlled by other people’s fears. We are here [to] rise in our divinity and to love unconditionally and fearlessly, even when it scares others. It’s a mistake to take anything personally or make other people’s problems our own. Dance in joy, be joy, share this joy, even if it is rejected. Never let the rejection stop you, for you are the sole power-generator of all the love you will ever experience in this lifetime and beyond. Never let language divide you from the ultimate source of your Tango connection…..YOU!