Happy New Year All You Kinky, Crazy D/s Lovelies!

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That is so far from the truth it isn’t funny, but then again, it is funny. Welcome to my cartoon alter-ego, in case any of you were wondering what I look like. I gave my cartoon the biggest boobs they have because, well, it’s true!

I don’t do resolutions only because I am always trying to improve myself. I am a true work in progress. I learned this year that in trying to make many improvements that I had a lot of of baggage that keeps creeping in; baggage I thought I had long gotten rid of.  I said many, many, many posts ago that I wanted to drop my armor and just be the real me. Well, in doing so a lot of insecurity came up. It really came up after our family tragedy and now I’m dealing with the aftermath of my mouth, which has a tendency to not filter or just spill over at times. I know I’m not the only one. Most of the time I’m just trying to get to the bottom of a problem. If you know me, you’ll know that I am honest and I’ll never feel bad about that. However,  I still don’t know how to act when my feelings get hurt. Some get it, some don’t, but that’s OK.

Sir and I are in a good place and that is what really counts. He is everything to me and it just keeps getting better and better. I love him so much it absolutely hurts at times. I can’t imagine this life without him. We are getting ready to celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary on February 14th and I look forward to another 25!

I have some wonderful D/s friends and am so thankful that they are in my life. I don’t know how I could have made it through without them, especially since September. Four months is a long time and a short time. It seems a lifetime happened in 4 short months.

I realize the only promises in life are the ones you make to yourself…to love with everything you’ve got, to live well and savor each moment with those you love, and to give wholeheartedly…without reservation and with joy and thankfulness.

Some will come and some will go.

Some will stay and some are slow.

Some will let you grow and glow.

Some will be and some will know.

Some will reap what they decide to sow

But you’re the one who runs your show.

God bless you all. Be safe. And please, do not drink and drive. There are lives that want to get home to those they love and that includes your own! Call a cab, call a friend, call for help…just don’t get behind the wheel.

50 Things Every Man Should Know About Sex, but Doesn’t

I found this list accidentally a while back on a site called The 2-Hour Sex Prodigy and made some adjustments so as to use it as a tool for conversation. I have absolutely no idea if the 2-Hour Sex Prodigy system works and this is by no means an endorsement, but I’ll give them credit for the list since it’s the right thing to do.

The list gives a pretty concise look at what many of us want our Doms to aspire to. While some may be strong in some of these areas don’t take that as inability. I also don’t recommend running up to your Dom exclaiming, “Look, I have a list of what you’re supposed to be doing. Elle gave it to me.” I may just take your ass over my knee if I hear of that happening. DON’T read this list and judge your Dom because that’s not the purpose. We all have our things to work on and my advice is to work on yourself first and foremost, but I’m not unaware of the fact that we have submissive needs and would like our needs met.

What you can do is start writing down how you feel about many of these categories in a journal that your Dom can read. I started using an app called Chapter – Shared Journal For 2. My Sir can see everything I’ve written from his app and we can privately comment back and forth. It’s better than texting because you can password protect it (so nosey children don’t read your comments) and put everything in categories; you can even include photos.

So here’s the list…enjoy!

  1. You should know that the quality of your sex life will affect your relationship and numerous other areas of your life
  2. You should know how to love her unconditionally
  3. You should know her inner, secret, longings and desires
  4. You should know her priorities in life
  5. You should know how she evaluates you and your masculinity
  6. You should know how to unfold her femininity
  7. You should know how she craves to feel owned by you
  8. You should know how she craves to serve you
  9. You should know how she wants you to challenge her
  10. You should know how to read her facial expressions and body language
  11. You should know how to relax her
  12. You should know how to intensify her submissiveness
  13. You should know how to lead her directly and indirectly using your voice
  14. You should know how to take over her mind using your voice
  15. You should know how to mind fuck her using your voice
  16. You should know how to develop your disciplinarian trait
  17. You should know how to develop your encourager trait
  18. You should know how she wants you to protect her
  19. You should know how to develop your self-reliance trait
  20. You should know how to develop your resolution trait
  21. You should know how to develop your honor trait
  22. You should know how to develop your courage and bravery traits
  23. You should know how to develop your perseverance trait
  24. You should know how to be charismatic and charming
  25. You should know how she craves seduction and foreplay
  26. You should know how to handle her body and move her where you want her
  27. You should know how to talk dirty
  28. You should know how to talk enticingly and seductively
  29. You should know her secret, sexual confessions
  30. You should know how to bring out her wild, animalistic lust
  31. You should know how to encourage and reveal her dirty, naughty side
  32. You should know how to tease her body and draw out her excitement
  33. You should know every erogenous zone on her body and when to trigger it
  34. You should know how to use your mouth and tongue to drive her wild with pleasure
  35. You should know how to awaken her G-spot out of its sleep
  36. You should know how to take full control of her G-spot and make it tremble with pleasure
  37. You should know how to awaken and thrill her deep spots
  38. You should know how to excite her cervix
  39. You should know how to awaken her anal pleasure spot
  40. You should know how to make her feel your girth better
  41. You should know how to control her orgasmic contractions
  42. You should know how to heighten her sensations with small adjustments
  43. You should know how to tease her continuously at the brink of orgasm
  44. You should know how to stimulate her clitoris and how to draw it out
  45. You should know how to raise her post-orgasmic sensations so she orgasms again and again
  46. You should know how to heighten her sensations with pressure points
  47. You should know how to get an insatiable sex drive
  48. You should know how to increase your sexual energy
  49. You should know how to control your ejaculations and get stronger erections
  50. You should know how to take care of her after you’ve played

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Don’t worry, men, her list is coming…