I found this list accidentally a while back on a site called The 2-Hour Sex Prodigy and made some adjustments so as to use it as a tool for conversation. I have absolutely no idea if the 2-Hour Sex Prodigy system works and this is by no means an endorsement, but I’ll give them credit for the list since it’s the right thing to do.
The list gives a pretty concise look at what many of us want our Doms to aspire to. While some may be strong in some of these areas don’t take that as inability. I also don’t recommend running up to your Dom exclaiming, “Look, I have a list of what you’re supposed to be doing. Elle gave it to me.” I may just take your ass over my knee if I hear of that happening. DON’T read this list and judge your Dom because that’s not the purpose. We all have our things to work on and my advice is to work on yourself first and foremost, but I’m not unaware of the fact that we have submissive needs and would like our needs met.
What you can do is start writing down how you feel about many of these categories in a journal that your Dom can read. I started using an app called Chapter – Shared Journal For 2. My Sir can see everything I’ve written from his app and we can privately comment back and forth. It’s better than texting because you can password protect it (so nosey children don’t read your comments) and put everything in categories; you can even include photos.
So here’s the list…enjoy!
- You should know that the quality of your sex life will affect your relationship and numerous other areas of your life
- You should know how to love her unconditionally
- You should know her inner, secret, longings and desires
- You should know her priorities in life
- You should know how she evaluates you and your masculinity
- You should know how to unfold her femininity
- You should know how she craves to feel owned by you
- You should know how she craves to serve you
- You should know how she wants you to challenge her
- You should know how to read her facial expressions and body language
- You should know how to relax her
- You should know how to intensify her submissiveness
- You should know how to lead her directly and indirectly using your voice
- You should know how to take over her mind using your voice
- You should know how to mind fuck her using your voice
- You should know how to develop your disciplinarian trait
- You should know how to develop your encourager trait
- You should know how she wants you to protect her
- You should know how to develop your self-reliance trait
- You should know how to develop your resolution trait
- You should know how to develop your honor trait
- You should know how to develop your courage and bravery traits
- You should know how to develop your perseverance trait
- You should know how to be charismatic and charming
- You should know how she craves seduction and foreplay
- You should know how to handle her body and move her where you want her
- You should know how to talk dirty
- You should know how to talk enticingly and seductively
- You should know her secret, sexual confessions
- You should know how to bring out her wild, animalistic lust
- You should know how to encourage and reveal her dirty, naughty side
- You should know how to tease her body and draw out her excitement
- You should know every erogenous zone on her body and when to trigger it
- You should know how to use your mouth and tongue to drive her wild with pleasure
- You should know how to awaken her G-spot out of its sleep
- You should know how to take full control of her G-spot and make it tremble with pleasure
- You should know how to awaken and thrill her deep spots
- You should know how to excite her cervix
- You should know how to awaken her anal pleasure spot
- You should know how to make her feel your girth better
- You should know how to control her orgasmic contractions
- You should know how to heighten her sensations with small adjustments
- You should know how to tease her continuously at the brink of orgasm
- You should know how to stimulate her clitoris and how to draw it out
- You should know how to raise her post-orgasmic sensations so she orgasms again and again
- You should know how to heighten her sensations with pressure points
- You should know how to get an insatiable sex drive
- You should know how to increase your sexual energy
- You should know how to control your ejaculations and get stronger erections
- You should know how to take care of her after you’ve played
Don’t worry, men, her list is coming…
Love this…love anything, really, that starts a conversation. Will share with Sir and I’m going to look at that app now. I get so excited when I see a new post from you…thanks!
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You say the sweetest things. I’ve got a couple of lists that I need to modify that are directed at the ladies because we’re not getting off the hook.
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Its a good list
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Great post Elle! Can’t wait to read about us ladies….we all have things to learn in this lifestyle!
Lts♥
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It’s a lifelong journey and we all have room for growth. We must work on ourselves every single day to improve.
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My Sir is very aware of a lot of these…. I’m sure he will take a peak at the rest… LOL!
LK
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Men like a good checklist and will review it and make sure they have all their bases covered… Lol!
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Love this post Elle! What a great list…I can’t wait to read the female version! I have much to learn!
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Thanks. We have as much work cut out for us as the Doms do.
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Great job, Elle! This list offers fantastic rewards!!!!
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Oh yes, many, many rewards.
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Great list…thanks for posting it….looking forward to reading the female list!!!
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Wow, nice comprehensive list and it’s a great idea to keep a journal about this! I have more time to figure out exactly what I want to say & formulate my thoughts properly.
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Writing it down really does help clarify how you feel.
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elle, this is a great post. Thank you!
I am going to check out that app and see if they have it for the iPhone. 🙂
xoox
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Thanks, Sofia. It’s a great app and a great way to communicate. Thanks for following!
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It seems like it but they don’t have it for the iPhone. 😦 Boooo
xoox
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That sucks. It’s usually the other way around and us Android users are trying to get iPhone apps. I have several iPhone friends so I’ll send an email to the developer to find out if they’re making it for iPhone too. You would think…
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lol yeah, it’s usually the other way around. 🙂
Thanks for sending the email to them. Let me know. 🙂
xoox
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The developer posted on their website that they will have an iPhone version soon.
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OMG you just made my day! Awesome news. Thank you girl!
xoox
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This is such a great list!!! I can’t wait to share the app with Daddy….THANKS!!!
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Thank you again. Please let me know what he thinks.
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I had never thought about an app for us and your post made me curious so I brought it up to Daddy and he likes the idea so we are going to look into which one is right for us. THANKS!
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