You read these things posted on Facebook and Pinterest and they sound so right. We claim them as our own personal mantras, but how many of us can really follow this advice?
I’ll be honest, I don’t always see the beauty in others. I all too easily see the ugly in others, and more easily, I see the ugly in myself. We are messy, selfish creatures. Now that I’m back at work in a large office of a couple hundred people I have seen some real nastiness. I forgot about this aspect of life having taken a 14 year sabbatical from the daily grind. Working from home does have its benefits and I didn’t have to deal with coworkers. I am again up close and personal and gossip is everywhere. Judgements, too, are rampant and so many bring all their problems with them wherever they go. I’ve figured out my personal strategy for staying out of the drama and I have to or else I’ll get stuck in the muck and mire.
I don’t believe that a beautiful person only sees the beauty in others. A beautiful person sees the truth of a person and acts accordingly. A beautiful person doesn’t allow another’s ugliness to influence decisions. A beautiful person has empathy, but will give the gift of accountability. A beautiful person sets an example by remaining true to honed character.
I’m around some who are challenges and getting drawn in would be all too easy. I’ve chosen to gracefully stay out of unnecessary controversies, as per my usual way, by not bringing my personal life to work. People tell me less of their garbage because they know I can’t get drawn in. The advantage for me is not only staying out of other’s dramas, but people are more apt to present a better version of themselves because they know the other junk doesn’t fly with me.
In order to see someone’s beauty you need to set the stage so that their beauty reveals itself.