He’s in Pain

He got hurt and has been in pain. At first he was strong and made adjustments to deal with it, but he started getting worn out. It’s been about eight weeks since he pulled an ab muscle. It takes a long time to heal and we’re both weary from it. Prior to that he hurt his shoulder and that took weeks to heal. He wasn’t able to sleep on his right side, which meant cuddling was hard. He was only able to be on that side for a very short time. Many positions were difficult, which meant sex was difficult. You just don’t realize how much you use your abs for certain activities until you really hurt one of those muscles.

Last weekend we scened and it was so damn good. It’s been a hard winter of cold, snow, long hours, family demands, work schedules to juggle, school drop offs and pick ups, worries, tensions, and planning. We both needed the release. We both needed the escape.

This weekend holds a lot of promise. We’ve been able to have our morning cuddles. Sex has gotten easier and hopefully this weekend we can have more intensity. His Sadist and my masochist needed to be sated.

I really want everyone to understand that we kept our cool through all of this. I didn’t have melt downs. I didn’t feel unloved. I didn’t make demands or beg. I knew it would pass and the worst is now over. I wanted him to be well, which meant he needed the time to really heal. He saw two doctors and they each said the same thing…rest. This experience has shown me that I’ve grown as a submissive. A couple of years ago this would have freaked me out. It’s not like he was incapacitated and he still had to go to work everyday at a physically demanding job. He was very tired every night when you came home and our weekends, of course, were packed with activities. I took on the lion’s share of much because he needed me to. This is what we do for each other. This is how we support one another. I know my time will come to get my pampering and to relax from so much responsibility.

I will hold up my end proudly as his submissive.

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23 thoughts on “He’s in Pain

    • As much as none of thinks it will happen, injuries and illness are going to occur. You find out what really lives in you when you get derailed. Glad you worked through it. Where there’s a will there’s a way.

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  1. Hey Elle πŸ˜„β€οΈ good to see you again!
    Sorry it’s been tough, but excellent post about devotion , submission and love

    Better days ahead I’m sure β€οΈπŸ˜„


  2. “Life”, they say, often times get’s in the way of D/sm. You both are inspiration in how NOT to let this happen. I enjoy your posts and your insights. Prayers for continued healing and bondage (oops, I mean bonding) πŸ™‚

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    • Accepting life’s imperfections is 99% of the battle. I’m now far from the “It’s all going to fall apart if we don’t engage in D/s every single minute of every single day” phase. It’s not about what we do and more about who we are. There’s nothing wrong with temporarily suspending certain tasks and rituals. We kept those in place that were necessary and we’ve made it through.


  3. Well Done! XO
    We all take longer to heal than when we were in our 20’s and invincible. Your abs are like you feet — in constant use….hard to rest. Glad you were able to scene. (We joined you in that timeline. πŸ˜‰ )

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