I said I was going to post on Elle’s blog for a while. Today seemed like a good day because I have a big break and that doesn’t happen a lot. I also don’t like sitting at a computer.
Elle and I have had a lot of talks over the last 2 years and our talks since the beginning of this year have gotten very interesting. We probably opened up more than we ever had. I think that happens to a lot of people, but I think at least it finally happening is a good thing. Better than continuing our lives the way they were for over 20 years.
Two years ago Elle comes to me admitting that she needed to be submissive and I told her yes, I agree, but you need to prove it and finally accept my leadership. Elle didn’t ask for anything else. She just wanted to submit. I don’t know what I would have thought if she had asked for everything at that time. I will say it was pretty wise on her part how she came to me. This was about her being a submissive even if I didn’t want to be her Dom. She didn’t ask me to be that, she just expressed that she always had these feelings and wanted to live like this from now on.
So I observed her for a while and started seeing a change in her behavior. She has a lot of leadership qualities and had to be independent early. I’m sure she had a lot of confusion going on inside her because she wanted to submit all along, but never felt like she could let her guard down. We had trust issues we had to deal with too. We got to the point that she finally asked me to be her Dom and I agreed, but I still had reservations. I had to learn a lot to be her Dom. I looked things up and I read. I was hesitant at first because when you’re starting out you’re reading about how everyone else does things. I needed the time to really know what I wanted. Elle was very enthusiastic and wanted to jump into everything right away. I wanted to go much slower.
If I have an athlete that runs an 11.0 100 meters and they want to run a 10.0, that athlete’s training is going to be different initially than my athlete that’s already running a 10.0. If I give them the same workout the 11.0 guy is going to get hurt or give up. I have to give the 11.0 guy a better foundation and work on his confidence. I will probably have to heal old injuries, strengthen weak areas, and make him more flexible. He will have to learn to trust my methods and not look around at what other coaches are doing. If I go right into explosive power training then I’m not a very wise coach. I see this happen all the time and those athletes never get where they need to go. You have to have a clear goal and have a plan.
I have a clear goal of where Elle and I need to be. I’ve seen a lot of growth in her the last 6 months. She’s been healing old wounds, working on weak areas, getting a good foundation and more confidence. She’s definitely flexible, and she finally stopped looking around at other people and making comparisons. I’m getting her ready for the explosive power training phase. This is when it gets fun and rewarding.