They draw you in, don’t they? Those artful black and white memes with their carefully crafted words trying to make women swoon and drool.
They’re all an illusion.
These movie star handsome, wealthy, well-dressed, gift-giving, suave, worldly, French-speaking Doms don’t exist in the real world.
I am married to a former model and that’s about as sophisticated as it gets. The majority of models don’t make that much and it’s a very short-lived career. He shot for some cool layouts way back when and he earned the whopping editorial rate of $75-$125 an hour. He does wear an suit well and is in great shape, but it’s his job to be in shape.
However…..
He can’t pronounce French (or Italian or Spanish), but his six years of German helps during Oktoberfest.
He doesn’t know a thing about wine and doesn’t pretend to, for that matter.
He really only traveled around the country and did a couple of mission tips to Haiti. When we finally go to Italy no doubt I’ll be doing the ordering.
He knows nothing when it comes to tech and only knows how to send emails, but he’s the go-to guy for all things algebra, calculus, geometey, and trigonometry. He’s good with science, too.
He’s not Mr. Fix-It. I’m the one with the tool skills, but he’ll help me with the housework or help a friend move.
He read what was required in high school and college and over the years has read biographies. He read a voluminous amount of children’s books to our kids. He won’t be picking up a classic or a bestseller anytime soon.
He’ll watch just about any movie with me, even the silly and sappy ones, but his favorites are Tombstone, Back To The Future, and Rocky.
He likes good food and will try different restaurants, but he’s just as happy going to a diner for breakfast. He prefers my cooking above all else.
He hates golf.
He tells the worst jokes.
He works long hours and gets dog-tired. He can get moody and a little withdrawn, but after a good night’s sleep he’s fine.
He’s honest and kind. If you lie to him or you’re an asshole you’re on the shit list. He won’t schmooze you.
He’s real and down to earth. He loves all of me. He’s not a glossy black and white photo. I don’t want him to be something that he’s not. I’ll take him as he is because that’s all I need.
I love this post. What you just described is a true, honest to goodness partner. When I started reading blogs and looking at tumblr I honestly thought I was missing out on something. My hubby doesn’t always have the answers. He’s not talk with bulging muscles it have a perfectly sculpted shaven body with an always erect 12 inch dick. He is my man. The one that has shed tears with me, laughed with me and held my hand through the birth of our children. He is my best friend, confidante and lover. To think I questioned that after looking at some silly pictures. I had just what I needed all along. Thanks for this post. I’m so happy for you.
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Thanks, Robin. People try to create this illusion and are setting themselves up for serious disappointment. Sounds like you have a similar kind of special to what I have. Happy for you, too.
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Absolutely love this post! Those Tumblr Dom’s as you say… Yes they really do reel you in… In the exact manner you say they do. I also agree with Robin (previous commentor) when I first got on tumblr I thought I was missing something as well, but what I have realized is what I have is so much better! We grow stronger and learn together everyday! I love my husband so much! I am so excited to see him growing into the true man he is and should be, and in no shape or form be a celebrity tumblr Dom. He is my best friend and loves me just the way I am, although he supports my decisions in becoming healthy. Thank you so much for this wonderful real post! It’s amazing!
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When you have someone who loves you for who you are you have to do the same. Real life D/s is an exercise in a level of honesty that’s not for the weak. Thanks so much for commenting.
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What a beautiful tribute to the man you love!
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Thank you, Dawn.
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Beautiful ♡
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Thank you so much.
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Love it, Elle!
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Thank you!
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This guy sounds really genuine, and I like your appreciation of that. Since he loves your cooking and Rocky, he must be a great guy 🙂
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Totally genuine. We’ve been together almost 30 years. Still haven’t had a chance to see Creed. I’ll make Italian and we’ll watch it on DVD.
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*clutching pearls while swooning* What??? Tumblr dom dudes are real? *shriek*
I’m very glad found the beautiful reality that has been obscured by the fables and half-truth. That brightens my day. 🙂
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Thank you, Liras. Reality is so much sweeter.
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The best Doms are the real ones, aren’t they? 😀
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He’ll yeah! It’s more rewarding when we appreciate and embrace what we have rather than bemoaning an illusion.
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Yes! Real is the only way to go!!
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Absolutely!
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So glad you are posting things like this “reality” check! Fiction and Fantasy are wonderful, but we all need to remember that is just what it is! Too many enter into this “lifestyle” thinking it is going to be like a story book…makes me sad when I hear about the crash and burn because it wasn’t what they thought it would be! Here’s to our REAL Doms!!! Cheers!
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The stories I hear are so sad. Marriages have been damaged because they’ve been told they can have a certain lifestyle and then go a out trying to copy a format that can’t possibly work for them. Hooray for reality.
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Well said 🙂
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Oh, Elle, how lovely! Can I come over and have lasagna, read a kids book and hear some rotten jokes? XO
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Absolutely! I make great lasagna and we have a never ending supply of books and jokes.
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Hurrah for real…. I love mine just the way he is too, no black and white glossy photo needed. I much prefer the reality of him over any imagined perfections.
Mollyxxx
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Fantasy is fun, but fleeting. It can never live up to expectations.
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